In 2019, I challenge you to love yourself more than anyone else has ever loved you.

All the ways your inner child wants to be parented, taken care of, seen, heard, respected, and loved unconditionally? You can give that to yourself.

You are the answer you’ve been waiting for.

It all starts with you.

Flip the script in your mind.

Let go of the shoulds.

On the other side of radical, unconditional self-love is everything you’ve been wanting.

I’m going to love myself so fiercely in 2019 that everyone around me is not going to know what’s happening. We are often confused when we see people (especially women) taking care of themselves. It doesn’t look right, somehow. But in 2018, I reached my threshold of caring about other people’s opinions.

We are all our own responsibilities. No one is going to save you except you.

But it is so hard to stop, slow down, remind yourself that your thoughts are just thoughts, neither true nor false, not you. Your circumstances are just circumstances, neither good nor bad. We assign all value and meaning to everything in our lives. You can detach and question the narrative you’ve been spinning.

Come up with a new interpretation, a new story. Throw out your assumptions. Act as if you don’t know. Because if you think you know everything, then you’ve stagnated. You’re done growing.

Start over. Get curious. And ask yourself, “Honey, what do you need today?” What can I do to refill my own cup?

Do the work. Because no one is going to give you what you aren’t willing to give yourself.

I challenge you to make 2019 the year you fall in love with yourself. Even if it means crawling out from under decades of self-loathing and subconscious programming. No one is going to do it for you. You are the one you’ve been waiting for.